What You Can Expect …

Being an Agent of Change myself, I totally understand the dilemmas and delights in being this type of person! Over the last 25 years I have worked with hundreds of Agents of Change from all walks of life and have refined a unique knowledge of exactly what works and what doesn’t with this type of client.

Things you will learn

• You are fabulous.
  I don’t expect that you will always feel fabulous, but whatever you are feeling like, my knowledge that you are fabulous won’t waiver. Learn to be steadfast in your positive regard for yourself too. Learn to differentiate between what you feel and who you are. (Who you are is much, much bigger!) I’ll constantly remind you of your greatness so you can build an immense store of courage.
• Be your best.
  Because frankly, nothing else is going to breathe life into your dreams and visions. Hiding your light under a bushel or playing small in any way won’t cut the mustard. It is important is that you keep out on your cutting edge, wherever it is from day to day. If I think you are not doing your best I am going to ask you about it.
• Be willing to change.
  Be willing to experiment. Be willing to try out new ways of doing and being. Have a go. If you are an Agent of Change, bring the energy of change right into your own life. Learn to have a big, powerful vision for yourself and your life. Then you can work out how to realise it, step by tiny, incremental step.
• Practice risk reduction
  … so you don’t have to be risk averse! Life is a risky business, especially when you are working to create change. Thinking of the danger inherent in change can paralyse people. Learn to reduce risk as much as you can and then you can do very daring things. (If you don’t believe me, just ask someone who has gone abseiling!)
• Be willing to make mistakes.
  If you are taking small cumulative steps, it is ok to make mistakes on the way. Before you try something new you don’t know whether it will work or not. If you try it and it works, you have learned something! If you try it and it doesn’t work, you have still learned something! Getting things wrong might not be as palatable as getting things right; you might feel disappointed instead of pleased, but you have still learned what you wanted to know.

I support you by asking a lot of you

• I make direct requests.
  From time to time, I’ll make a direct request, like, “Will you accomplish x by the end of the month?” You may accept the request, say what you would like to do instead or decline altogether. Whatever you decide to do I will hold you accountable to yourself, not to me. I want you to know you can trust yourself absolutely even when the going gets really tough.
• I tell the truth.
  Sometimes I get a sense of what is going on at a deep level. I will always tell you these inklings. However, I am invested in supporting you, not in being right, so what you make of them is up to you! Honesty is one of my values. I am straight and I expect the same of you. You can talk about anything you want. You can tell me what is useful and what is not. I will listen. I want to hear it all.
• I don’t overlook much.
  When I hear a funny tone in your voice, or notice something amiss, I’ll ask you about it. Often it is these small moments that offer the chance to move forward. However, I don’t confront or push; I’ll merely invite you to look at something. It is often useful to get very curious about the little glitches in our lives. What is going on there?
• I expect you to keep up momentum 24/7; don’t get dependent on me.
  Clients who get the most out of working with me quickly learn to work on themselves in-between calls. They set themselves homework and get it done. I am a resource for you to use to your best advantage. Don’t let yourself get into a position of needing me. Trust yourself. Challenge yourself. Be good to yourself. I might show you how to do these things, but if you don’t practise yourself you will never own them.

“Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were all born to shine, as children do… And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others!”
… Marianne Williamson
(Quoted by Nelson Mandela in his Inaugural Presidential Speech, 1994)